Masturbation

My three year old daughter is constantly touching herself.  It started with the seat belt in the car.  One day I looked in my review mirror and my daughters face was bright red with beads of sweet running down her face.  I looked closer and she was in a trance, pushing back and forth against her seat belt.  She is three so she is in the five point harness belt.  This happens pretty much every time we are in the car ride.  A few weeks went by since my first discovery, and I noticed her exploring had moved into the house while watching t.v.  I'm not sure why I was in so much shock.  My son started exploring his body part around this same age.  For some reason, it didn't bother me too much and I just told him that his behavior was something that should be done in his room, alone, with his door shut.  I know any doctor or sought after research will tell you this is totally normal behavior and should be treated as such.  I was very proud of myself for not overreacting with my son and not making him feel like he was doing something bad.  As he got older, more discussion was needed.  He is only seven, so masturbation is still very innocent.  He calls it "tickling his penis".
As for my daughter, I noticed that she was making her vagina red and sore.  I started telling her to stop in the car saying, "(name) stop that, your hurting your Vagina", or if it were in the family room, I would tell her she needed to do that in her room.  Of course that backfired a little bit.  The other day she was upstairs playing in her room and I decided to go check on her because I hadn't seen her in a while.  As I walked up the stairs, she was coming down the hall and I said, "hey there, whatcha doing?"  Her response was, "hurting my Gina in my room".
It took all I had not to laugh.
I'm sharing this story for other moms to know that they are not the only ones dealing with these private issues.  (haha no pun intended)
It has bothered me more with my daughter because I constantly have my son's friends in the car and she doesn't understand that what she is doing in front of others and there is only so much I can do while I'm driving and only so much I can say without making it more obvious to others in the vehicle.  I guess I will know someone figured out what she was doing if I get a phone call from a parent.  LOL
For now, I am very much looking forward to her turning four so I can get rid of the five point harness and switch to the normal shoulder seat belt.
As parents we want the best for our children and want to raise them the best we can.  We never think about all the issues and life lessons that will come our way.  No one way is the right way.  Just remember to not make your children feel bad for something that is normal.  

Cheap Makeup remover

I'm not good at taking the time to remove my makeup, but recently I started using foundation so I knew that I had to start taking care of my skin and removing my makeup at the end of the day.  I had always just used toilet paper and some lotion to remove my eye makeup.  While that works great, sometimes I would get the lotion in my eyes and that didn't feel so great.  So one night while watching GLEE, I picked up on the perfect makeup remover tip.  

BABY WIPES!  Does this really work I wondered?  I always buy the scent free, natural pampers baby wipes, but during this experiment, I have found even the cheap target brand works just the same.  BABY WIPES WORK.  I don't just mean, it works OK, this really got ALL the makeup off, while at the same time not putting any harsh chemicals on my skin.  Just remember to moisturizer with your night cream after the makeup is removed.  :)

Skinny after baby

Have you seen the recent picture of Jessica Alba on the beach FOUR months after she had her second daughter?!  It's enough to make me want to throw up or eat an Oreo, not sure which.  I know the reality of it, is that she has nannies and personal trainers and oh yeah money, but sometimes its hard not to set your standards on what you see others doing.
Just remember what others are doing and are able to do are not always what is right for you or healthy for that matter.  I myself breast feed and unlike what they say, I don't loose the weight until I am done.  I commit to breast feeding for a year, so I know in my mind, that I am sacrificing very little, my "perfect" weight, so that my baby has a good start in life.
Also, just a little piece of advice,  Loosing weight is never going to be in a magic pill or perfect diet.  The only way to loose weight and keep it off is to eat healthy and exercise.  Not the best news in the world, but the truth.  :)
So the point of this blog:
Don't be so hard on yourself.  Don't compare yourself to others, expecially since we all have different circumstances and bodies for that matter.  Happiness comes from within, once you have found it, it will show on the outside as well.

Pregnancy complication

Well, I just found out that I not only have to worry about post partum hemorrhage,  (I get this after each of my births) not sure why, but at least it can be controlled somewhat by knowing it will happened, I also have placenta previa.  The two together is the leading cause of maternal death.  Yeah me.
First I am told that there is no way I can have a Cesarean due to my postpartum hemorrhage complications, yet now I am told it will be my only option.  I have three other children and I am worried now that I will leave them motherless.  I hate feeling like this.   I am trying to stay positive, but as I read the statistics on my condition, I just want to cry.  I know no one really reads this, but I needed to get it out somewhere.

Sex....finding time for your partner.

We've all experienced it.  You have a baby, and then another and then, for some of us ANOTHER.  Life explodes and getting through the day with your sanity in tact is a major achievement.  We fall into bed at night and the only thing on our mind is I WANT SEX.  hahahahaha  yeah right!  Sex with your spouse gets pushed to the backburner.  Don't worry, this is all normal.  Every marriage experiences it.  So how do you make time for your partner, and better question, how do you make it a priority with everything else on your plate.  

I hope you weren't looking for the answer here.  My husband and I are constantly reminding ourselves that we need to make time for each other.  We even went as far recently, as setting an alarm clock for 6am to have some "us time".  Do you know what happened?!  My 17month old decided to wake up that day at 5:58am.  We both had to laugh.  For one, we laughed at ourselves becasue we are desperate enough to set an alarm to have sex,  and two at our luck.  But, the point is, we tried.  

As long as you both are constantly trying, you will be ok.  Life has many stages and this stage won't last forever although your husband might feel differently.  LOL

Feel free to leave ideas on how to find time for each other, or just your thoughts in general. 

Pinterest

I LOVE this site, I have gotten so many craft ideas to do with the kids.  The best part is, I actually have been doing them.  :)
As every busy mom knows, it one thing to have a great idea to do with you kids, but another to follow through.  I have found such easy projects for all ages, using simple supplies that are already in the home.  Check it out!  :)

The Help....

I went to see the movie, "The Help".  Excellant movie!  I thought I would share a tip out of the movie for puffy eyes.  A lady said that if you put Crisco under your eyes, it will elminate puffy eyes.  Not sure if it works, but I thought it was a worth a try.  Yep, I said Crisco.  Also good for getting gum out of hair.